And honestly, I'm somewhat worried about writing this. A lot of this post and cultural desexualization has to do with race, or being trans, fat, or a person with differing abilities (societal disabilities) and is an aspect of racism, transphobia, fat phobia, and ableism. And I'm white, cis, able bodied, and thin. I'm also blond and rather "feminine" and desexualization is not something I experience. However, I ended up being the champion for the right to cultural sexual consideration in the thread, and I want to spend some time going over it for future use and to further organize and process my own thoughts. So here's the warning, as the result of my privilege I might get some of this wrong. If so, I hope people will let me know.
"The call to discuss the cotton ceiling is a plea for an end to the shame and coercion trans women - and our cis partners - face...It’s about internalized messages that no one will ever love a freak like you so you shouldn’t even try. It’s about trans women in queer women sexual spaces who are treated disrespectfully and told we’re disgusting...It’s about how cis women who are involved with trans women are told they aren’t real lesbians."
And this leads into the other main objection of the term cotton ceiling. Many feminists (even those who approve of the ideas behind the term) see it as contributing to rape culture. The idea of the glass ceiling is that it must be shattered, but ceiling metaphors in regards to sex are seen as problematic. However, ceiling metaphors are used to discuss systematic oppression and change, and are used in regards to sex in the disabled community as well.